At Villa Milagro, we’ve explored the essential pillars of wellness—nutrition, movement, and stillness (rest and recovery). But one pillar is often overlooked despite its profound impact on health: community and relationships. As a functional medicine physician, I’ve seen firsthand how social connections shape well-being, resilience, and longevity. Science confirms what we instinctively know—humans thrive in connection with others.
The Science of Connection
The groundbreaking Harvard Study of Adult Development followed individuals for over 80 years and found that the quality of relationships was the strongest predictor of longevity and happiness—even more than genetics or wealth. Strong social ties have been linked to lower rates of heart disease, better immune function, and reduced risk of cognitive decline. “Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too. That, I think, is the revelation”, said Robert Waldinger, director of the study, a psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital and a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.
Another review published in PLOS Medicine found that individuals with strong social relationships had a 50% increased likelihood of survival compared to those with weak connections—an effect comparable to quitting smoking! Chronic loneliness, on the other hand, has been associated with increased inflammation, higher cortisol levels, and a greater risk of chronic diseases.
What is the physiological impact of relationships? Research shows that positive social interactions trigger the release of oxytocin, often referred to as the “bonding hormone,” which helps reduce stress and promote emotional resilience. On the other hand, chronic loneliness has been linked to increased cortisol production, which can contribute to systemic inflammation, high blood pressure, and insulin resistance. Understanding these mechanisms reinforces why prioritizing human connection is just as important as maintaining a healthy diet or exercise routine.
How I Approach This with Patients
In my practice, I encourage patients to assess their social well-being just as they do their nutrition or exercise routines. Here are some key areas we explore together:
- Quality of Relationships – Are your relationships nourishing or draining? Do you have a support system?
- Sense of Belonging – Do you engage with a community that aligns with your values?
- Time for Connection – How often do you prioritize social interactions?
- Service & Contribution – Helping others boosts oxytocin and endorphins, reinforcing a sense of purpose.
Just as we design personalized nutrition or movement plans, we co-create strategies to strengthen their social support networks, whether through rekindling old friendships, joining community groups, or fostering deeper family bonds.
One of the most profound transformations I’ve witnessed in my patients comes when they engage in meaningful community experiences. Whether it’s joining a weekly support group, engaging in volunteer work, or even attending a retreat like Villa Milagro, these moments of connection create deep, lasting changes. Patients often report feeling more grounded, less anxious, and even experiencing measurable improvements in health markers like blood pressure and blood sugar regulation.
Community at Villa Milagro
At Villa Milagro, community is not an afterthought—it is woven into the retreat experience. Shared meals, group discussions, and collective healing practices remind us that healing happens in connection. Whether practicing yoga together, engaging in heartfelt conversations, or simply sitting in silence with a kindred spirit, we cultivate an environment where relationships flourish.
Take the Next Step
Consider how you can enhance your own sense of connection. Could you reach out to a friend today? Join a community that resonates with you? Prioritize face-to-face interactions over digital ones? Small shifts can have a profound impact.
As we continue our journey towards optimal wellness, let’s remember: health is not just about what we eat or how we move—it’s about the people we share our lives with. At Villa Milagro, we invite you to experience the transformative power of community in a setting designed for deep healing and connection.
